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with this ring, i thee wed

May 2, 2009

there’s one area where i disagree with the republicans, and that’s the topic of marriage of gay and lesbian couples. if God made everyone in His image, then surely there’s no point in all of this insanity.

i’ve been around the block enough to have made up my own mind on this topic. i also believe you’re born gay and, despite what many religious folks tells us, there’s no way to become “un-gay.” what the fuck does that mean, anyway? if you’re lucky enough to find love, true and everlasting love, and it happens to be with someone who’s the same sex as you are, good for you! that’s fantastic and congratulations! who am i to say you can’t get married? more important, what right does a government have to say you can’t get legally married, instead of having a civil union? marriage is so deep and personal and exhausting and wonderful, and it doesn’t seem fair that my gay friends can’t participate in the same legal union i share with the mr.

i wonder, does some of this nonsense come down to money? in 2007, when she came out to the world as a lesbian, suze orman stated,

In reaction to Orman’s coming-out, numerous media outlets have focused on her statements regarding her inability to legally marry her partner and the financial repercussions of that status. “Both of us have millions of dollars in our name,” Orman told the New York Times Magazine. “It’s killing me that upon my death, K.T. is going to lose 50 percent of everything I have to estate taxes. Or vice versa.”


excuse me? fifty percent of either of their life’s wealth going to estate taxes? whereas, the same scenario won’t go down with me and the mr., who are legally married? is that what this is all about, the dollar? i don’t know, but of course it makes me wonder.

(as an aside, i look at the beautiful family of chef cat cora and her partner, jennifer. from what i’ve read, jennifer is the homemaker and cat is the breadwinner. what will go down with that family’s wealth if cat dies first? is it fair not to allow these two adult women to legally marry? my answers are “i don’t know,” and “no.”)

well, i know it’s not all about the dollar, and i understand that. there are those who will always cling to the Bible’s edicts on marriage, while others, some of the homophobic persuasion, can’t handle the topic at hand. let’s flip this around and imagine if i were a lesbian and i wasn’t allowed to legally marry my partner. i would be stratospherically ballistic. pissed off. angered beyond comprehension. you’re telling me i can’t have a marriage ceremony (fuck this civil union bullshit) simply because both me and my life partner have vaginas? i don’t get it.

as i stated at the beginning of this post, this is the one area where i am diametrically opposed to my fellow republicans and conservatives. you can’t choose with whom you fall in love. you can’t. you can’t change your sexual orientation. who am i to say gays and lesbians can’t get married? i’ve got no right to say that, and neither does anyone else, or any government for that matter.

2 Comments leave one →
  1. May 2, 2009 11:48 am

    I found your blog on MSN Search. Nice writing. I will check back to read more.

    Eric Hundin

  2. loudmouthgays permalink
    May 2, 2009 2:54 pm

    Thank you for this wonderful post, and your vocal support! As an aside, I had no idea that Cat Cora was a lesbian! That’s going to make watching Iron Chef America so much more satisfying now. Cheers!

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